Long thought of the day: If a community raises a child, but parents get all the praise of raising good people; who gets the blame when whole generations turn out to be mostly rotten?
Because blaming parents, teachers or even the communities themselves just gets a bunch of backlash from the very people who are the most reasonable to blame...
You know, I think most of that thought is basically summed up in the title and byline alone.
Seriously, who’s to blame? Can’t blame the parents… except for when you can because CPS got involved… but even then not really. Yeah, seriously. I’ve seen it before many times now, have seen it again recently, and will see it again in the future as well without a doubt. Except for the absolute worst and most heinous cases… parents seem to be able to get away with just about anything short of murder and sexual abuse. And even those two things aren’t concrete…
Those who know, know. Those who don’t… well, you’ll be pretty obvious when you start talking.
Or at least that’s how it should be, but because of just how ludicrously and absolutely foolish society is as a whole; there are a lot of gullible motherfuckers out there who will believe those people who don’t know, or do know but say other things otherwise due to being evil pieces of shit who need to be dealt with accordingly.
Society has a lot of those.
But we can’t blame society either, because how dare we lump people together into general terms now.
Well, fair I suppose; except for the part where said society is also full of those evil shits who will gaslight endlessly to protect bad parents and bad teachers and bad people in general.
So, who’s to blame? Cause and effect does have a start point after all, and it’s not whatever arbitrary position that makes you feel better. Not by a long shot.
My answer?
Parents are always to blame for the actions of their children, at least up to the point where they become adults themselves… for equal length of time they were with their parents. Yeah, that might surprise some of you, but hear me out.
Until you are 100% on your own, not being supported by any family; you’re still technically under their influence.
And this all applies to the scholastic side as well. Until a person is no longer under the thumb of the school systems, they are still technically under their influence.
What this means to point out, is that agency has not yet been arrived at for those people. There is a faux agency put in place, but that’s all it really is and should be treated as. Yes, they are responsible for acting properly, of course; and should be reprimanded anyways when they act out; but it should not be alone.
Parents, are the source of everything wrong with a person, due to the fact that person literally came from them, and was raised by them. If you know genetics is going to play a bad hand for the child to come from you; then you are at fault for that. If you know that your parents didn’t raise you properly, then you should be aware that you probably won’t raise yours properly either. You will probably do your best, and that’s noble; but still your fault when you fuck up. And your parents fault too, since you only fucked up in that way, because they fucked up in their ways.
But this isn’t to just be mean to parents, teachers, etc…
This is to help right the wrong that has been pushed upon society by our more evil and stupid brethren.
We must correct the course of this ship, so we don’t keep cycling through the same dumb bullshit again and again every generation or so. Because that’s really the case at hand right now.
We are seeing a repeat of earlier generations dead and gone, because the latter generations weren’t raised right for a myriad of reasons, both legitimate and … less so.
But we don’t have all the same factors as before this time around. We have the ability to set things right.
But to do that, we need to get people over their kneejerk reaction over blaming parents for being shitty at their one job.
Raising decent people.
And I’d say we have only maybe about 20% efficiency on that right now. Because there are a lot of shitty, dumb fucking people out there still, and the fact that things don’t just fall apart radically every other week; is because of those few decent people keeping things running for the rest of us.
No, I don’t count myself among them; because I’ve made my own mistakes too. I try to not be like those who I decry, but I’m definitely not on the same level of being ‘decent’ as I myself see those other people as being. I was, once upon a time ago. Once, upon a time ago.
But then, well, society at large wasn’t raised right before I was born, so a good 80% of us were doomed from the start.
So I’m also not really faulting anyone for continuing the cycle when they don’t realize it is occurring.
But to the rest of you who know, but defend bad parents and bad teachers anyways… and society at large when its being heinous; yeah I blame you entirely. I fault you. I have every right to. I am who I am, because you the community by and large, helped raise me. Part of growing up with the modern technology we have today, means that the hyper-connectedness of our world has consequences.
And whether you like it or not, I have every right to make this argument, because of not only my experience, and others experience stating it to be true; but because historically and currently we have the evidence as well.
But people really don’t like facts when it clashes with their fictions, and so they bury it, fight it with lies, and convince fools they are correct.
So here’s my ultimatum to society on this matter.
Smarten up, or those of us who are fully aware of the situation properly are going to smarten you up. Even if that means leading you around like a dumb jackass into every lesson you need to learn, the hard way. You will learn, eventually. I know you will, because this method has been proven through time to work the best when dealing with thickheaded fucking morons.
It’s pretty hard to ignore the truth, when it’s staring you directly in the face. Yet some still manage.
And for the love of all that is good; stop using parenting books to figure out how to deal with your child. Actually parent instead. You’ll figure it out faster than reading some words from some stupid fuck who never raised their kids properly either. Or at all.
For those of you who need to be slapped in the face with reality though, here’s one thing that puts it all on the table for you to understand better than maybe anything else.
The current housing crisis situation. Long story short, if you were raised right at all on any level, you’ll understand why the entire problem is entirely the fault of previous generations being greedy and in some cases just down right evil.
And if you weren’t raised right… at all… well… then there is no helping you anyways without leading you around like a dumb jackass to teach you everything you never learned.
And I think even if we disagree on everything else, we can probably mostly agree you’re probably going to act like a dumb jackass if someone tries that with you…
Because your parents, teachers and community, did not raise you right.
Now, if anyone wants sources for any claims, you can find them yourselves. It will be more useful that way anyways, because then maybe some of the dumb jackasses will educate themselves instead. I’ve already said enough, and I already know I’m right anyways.
I’m currently living in the reality that proves me correct; the same one you all live in.